September-October 2010

Posted by Michael Duhaney on 8 September 2010 | 2 Comments

Expressions by Sheila Stevenson

"Now when I look in a mirror I see... me! My white hair and wrinkles are obvious, as are the extra pounds, but so is the love, acceptance and kindness in my eyes.

When I checked myself in the mirror in childhood I saw only ugliness and pain, drab brown hair and forlorn lifeless eyes. In my youth all I could see was someone who didn't ‘measure up', and it didn't seem to matter which measuring stick was used. In early adulthood I most often saw flaws and failure whenever I caught a glimpse of my reflected self. Yet deep inside I had a hope that life could hold more meaning and joy. About that time I met a wonderful person who helped me work through the process of dealing with my demons and the extreme pain of childhood abuse. She helped me learn to accept myself as I was and to begin recognizing my own beauty, strength and wisdom. Overnight wasn't the speed I worked at, rather it was a progressive dawning of realizations and insights. Despite the sexual abuse, the beatings and the emotional trauma and neglect, I had been raised to ‘mind my manners' and to ‘honour' other people. No one ever taught me how to respect and honour myself.

Sadly, too many young women in our society did not receive the kind of nurturing that helped them grow fully into the beautiful, strong and capable individuals they were born to become. So? As someone once said, "The best time to plant a tree is twenty years ago. The second best time is now."

Am I as gorgeous as someone else? No! Am I as smart as some other women? No! Am I as wealthy as some are? No! So? I learned to stop measuring myself against what is impossible. I am not an identical twin, so I'll never look like someone else. I wasn't meant to. How would anyone find me in a crowd if I looked like everyone else? I invested time and energy into becoming the best I can be, and in the process I gained the inner beauty, strength and wisdom I used to admire in others. I am a valuable human being and I have something to offer this world while I am here. I am unique and so are my abilities. Discovering me was well worth the journey.

I wish you meaning and joy on your journey to discovering how unique and wonderful you are!"

By Sheila Stevenson

Author. Keynote speaker. Facilitator


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  • Mmmmm, tasty food for thought indeed...thank you for sharing!

    Posted by Jenny de Miranda, 05/11/2010 12:33pm (8 years ago)

  • Thank you for such an insightful post. I love the quote "The best time to plant a tree is twenty years ago. The second best time is now." I've said that to myself when I've felt stuck. It speaks to the power of now, and the optimism that rests in embracing the future, no matter where we are in our journey.
    Thank you for sharing!

    Posted by Nancy , 05/10/2010 6:12pm (8 years ago)

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