November-December 2010

Posted by Michael Duhaney on 3 November 2010 | 1 Comments

Expressions by Candice Wilmore

Old crone? Hell Yeah.

Within the next decade, 78 million baby boomers born between 1946 and 1964 will turn 60 - and more than half of them are women.

No face-lifts, tummy tucks, or Botox are necessary for some local female boomers. These women don't feel bad about their necks - or their age. They are "crones," women who are reshaping what it means to grow older by embracing 60 and beyond.

While many may shrink from the term "crone," which conjures up images of a withered old woman, the concept originated thousands of years ago when women's life patterns were conceptualized in stages - maiden, mother and crone.

A crone is not an age, nor is it a time, it is a state of mind for these women. What sets a crone apart, however, is her willingness to tell the truth about her life." (found online)

I turned 60 in May 2008 and couldn't be happier about it. I wouldn't go BACK to the 60's in exchange for BEING it for all the moisturizer in Macy's.

I've know how lucky I am in that my life is very fulfilled. I don't much identify now with what I do or how others perceive me like I did for so much of my life. Most of that I credit to something I was given and that I've chosen to do, which takes me inside, a sort of self-discovery that shows me who I really am and why I'm here.

Some of where I'm am now is also due to a lot of hard work over the years to understand where I came from, what happened to me, especially during childhood and youth, and how to react differently to outside circumstances than I did for so many scary, painful years. In short, it's all been worth it. I intend to enjoy this time, this freedom, this wisdom and this comfort I've finally found. I plan to be a huge opportunist in garnishing all there is in this life I'm being given...for a limited but luscious time.

I heard someone talking the other day about teachings related to life extension and the hope that someday the body can live eternally...or at least a few hundred years. I'm so not interested. Yes, there are health benefits that come from that type of research, but to spend my precious moments trying only to extend them? Nope, not for me.

I have a dear friend who thinks what I believe and feel is complete nonsense. To him, a human being is little more than chemistry and any feelings we have simply those little neurons and peptides colliding in some way to produce an illusion we put labels on like love, peace, joy.

I don't judge that take on things. Maybe that is what's happening. Either way, I'm enjoying it, not trying anymore to figure it all out. That's when the gratitude can manifest and there's nothing quite like that "chemical reaction" to get my heart singing. Illusion or not, I just know I can really dance to this beat of life. I'm in love with that feeling, no matter where it comes from.

So old crone? Hell yeah, bring it on. "Youth is wasted on the young" said Georgie B. Shaw and though it doesn't have to be that way, I'm completely elated I made it this far, cause I sure did waste a lot of time in the past overlooking what was there all along.

By Candice Wilmore
Writer and Music Promoter

 


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  • I loved this essay and want to say thank you Candice for writing what so many of us feel. I am 20 years old in a 56-year old body, but I am so much wiser than I was at 20. There is a freedom that comes with growing older, a "what the hell" sort of attitude that you know you can't go back, and you're feeling the wind filling your sails for going forward. I am a crone and proud of it.

    Posted by Therese, 12/12/2010 4:37pm (8 years ago)

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